Wednesday, May 30, 2007

Sometimes, Women are Sexist Against Women

Can We Stop Adultery ?

I have just read an article from The Star. Deputy Finance Minister, Datuk Dr. Ng Yen Yen called to hold plans on ‘little dragon ladies’. Currently, she is opposing the plan of importing chinese maids to Malaysia. Chinese maids was said to cause family disharmony hence the opposition.

This is what she said:
" Wanita MCA chief Datuk Dr Ng Yen Yen said that unless clear guidelines on the recruitment are laid out and the interests of local women protected, the political party wing is against the move. "

Seriously, I am not questioning Ng Yen Yen's intelligence but really curious with the ideas, plans and guidelines Home Affairs can produce in collaboration with Wanita MCA on...

"How to stop adultery between (local) men and (Chinese) women".

It will REALLY be interesting to read it. Hope that the plans come out in the form of a book similar to the "Dummies" series.

For your information, Adultery not only happens between Mainland Chinese women and local men. Local men and local women have extra-marital affairs as well.

Chinese Women are Home-Wreckers?

The next verse coming from the supposed representative of the Malaysian Chinese women in Malaysia said:
These women are enticing local married men into having affairs with them and are causing family disharmony,” she said after chairing the wing’s central committee meeting here yesterday. "

Am I wrong to say that she is making a sexist stereotype on Mainland Chinese women?

As usual, whenever adultery happens, certain women likes to blame the third-party female as the enticers. Maybe these people should ask themselves the set of questions below before arriving at a poorly generalised conclusion:

1) In certain cases, isn't there a possibility that the man is the enticer? Why must it be mentioned only women? Whenever adultery happens, both the man and woman should be blamed. The judgment should not be one-sided.

2) Why can't they blame their man for not being able to control his sexual urge instead? It takes two hands to clap.

3) Why can't they blame themselves for choosing a man who can't stay true to the relationship?

4) Is it worth keeping a man who knows no loyalty to the woman he loves?

5) There are instances of local Chinese and Malay men committing adultery with Indonesian maids. Are we going to make such stereotypes against Indonesian women as well? Will there be maids for us if all of them are banned according to nationality?

6) Does ALL Mainland Chinese women come to Malaysia for such ill-gotten intention? Maybe majority BUT NOT ALL.

Should we blame adultery only on the women, my dear woman representative of MCA? What kind of woman are you?

Rude Remarks

She further added:
" Ng, however, stressed to Bernama that Wanita MCA was in no way showing disrespect to women in China but was rather taking a realistic stand in looking after the well-being and happiness of local women and ensuring family values were safeguarded. "

Perhaps, Ng Yen Yen, all affected parties and Malaysians should put themselves in the Mainland Chinese women's place. Then, read and feel the words made. As a Mainland Chinese woman working in Malaysia to earn money for your family in China, you would be disappointed that others view you in such a perspective.

There is a high possibility that Ng Yen Yen, as a high-post politician would probably say that her statements are directed only against "little dragon ladies". Read the article from The Star and understand the implications carefully.

Am I wrong to say that the phrase below is the summary for the article?

" Ng Yen Yen told Home Affairs Ministry to hold on plans to import (Mainland) Chinese maids because of (Mainland) Chinese women wrecking Malaysian families "

Tell me that is not a generalised disrespectful statement towards Chinese women? Try to convince me if her words do not sound accusative and stereotypical towards (Mainland) Chinese women. Try to assure me if her words do not sound discriminatory towards Chinese nationals.

Sometimes, women are sexist against women.

Why can't we use a more Refined Approach?

I appreciate Wanita MCA's stand against the sexist MPs from BN regarding the "Bocor" comments. Ng Yen Yen described their deeds as "vulgar and crude".

It is probably true that there are incidents of adultery concerning local men and Mainland Chinese maids. It is mostly true that Wanita MCA in the form of its chief claimed they were unable to do anything to resolve the local women's plight.

Perhaps, stopping the import of Chinese maids may be a temporary solution.

The main problem is, as a major educated leader of the Chinese community, she should have used a more refined approach to halt the plan...

1) She should have said this:

" Wanita MCA requests Home Affairs Ministry to halt the plans of importing Mainland Chinese maids due to family issues voiced by local women "

" Local women complains of adultery between their men and Chinese maids. Wanita MCA aims to voice these concerns and attempt achieve an amicable solution with Home Affairs Ministry that will be advantageous to all parties "

instead of this:

" Ng Yen Yen told Home Affairs Ministry to hold on plans to import (Mainland) Chinese maids because of (Mainland) Chinese women wrecking Malaysian families "

Whoa there!!! Would you like to be a Mainland Chinese women after that statement? I wouldn't want to.

2) Otherwise, she should have met the Home Affairs Minister and try to get him to halt the plans behind-the-scenes. Provide better reasons for halting the plan such as legal issues, etc. etc.

Bear in mind, China is fastly becoming a major trading power. Ng Yen Yen should be reminded that 2007 is Visit Malaysia Year.

As a representative of a constituency and the women community, educated politician, I am very sure that Ng Yen Yen could have issued more professional, polite and refined statements rather than using insensitive and blunt comments.

Malaysian, especially Ministers should be courteous at all times.


Reference websites

Dr Ng Yen Yen's official site
KTemoc -Wanita MCA: "No, no, no to Suzie Wongs"


MJ said...

“ These women are enticing local married men into having affairs with them and are causing family disharmony,” she said after chairing the wing’s central committee meeting here yesterday. "

It takes 2 to have an affair, sometimes 3 or more people involved. The husbands too, have a hand in having affairs with Chinese (or other races) maids/women. Why blame the Chinese women instead?

Why is the wife ignoring the husband having an affair, continue to stay with him? Why settle for being 2nd in marriage? Why is the husband not satisfied and look for others? Is the marriage honest and strong in the first place, now?

It's dishearting to know women stomping women.

Daily Nibbler said...

Ok then, let them in. Lets see the effect after a few batches.

Chastity belt sales may just shoot up.

Sagaladoola said...

Hi Daily Nibbler,

Did you read the last Section of this post:

"Why can't we use a more Refined Approach?"

I believe you didn't. It is best to read the entire article before coming to a conclusion.


Daily Nibbler said...

Hi Sagaladoola,

Yes, I did but I still come to the same conclusion.

Maybe she should use a refined approach, more diplomacy, no doubt. But the end result is still we should not let them in.

Hey, if the majority and the government insist, ok, lets see the effect after a few batches. Its the weaknesses of the male species in general that I am skeptical about.

Tahnk said...

Women are scared that their "gravy train" of gold-digging will stop. Have you read the blogs of local women nowadays about how they want heaven and earth? They want men to be more sensitive, more caring, spend more time on them, spend more money on them, be romantic, have a nice car, have a nice house, take them on holidays, look good, pamper them, etc etc etc etc. While not giving much in return.

And that they will have to work harder to please their husbands, ahahahaha.